Some parents feel anxious and worried to see their son have a shy attitude. While those who are ambitious to want feel anxious about the situation that is always inferior and unable to carry out socially with friends or others.
Even people who felt most confident one day will never feel anxiety. Maybe he used only if the speech or make a presentation in public, but it could be she screamed in terror when she saw a spider in the corner of the ceiling.
If we have a high sense of shame, then forever we will never be social and get along. Especially if shyness is severe, the person will tend to close themselves, alone, and finally felt a loneliness and mental stress (depression). So that we can avoid or overcome shyness harmful, we must first recognize the shyness itself.
During this time, we assume shame is something that is not socially awkward and feel less free. In addition, we also assume that shy people are quiet people, do not like to associate with others, and self-closing. A shame synonymous with inferiority, where feelings of shame and low self-esteem is a feeling that torture and limits the association. Feelings of shame is an uneasy feeling that a person experiences the views of others above himself
Shyness and Social Anxiety
Shyness and social anxiety generally arise because the concept itself is negative. They always felt disproportionate when compared to others. The result is less confident of the ability themselves, too sensitive, lack of trust or respect, and fear of being wrong.
Shame cause a person to be stunted personal development and effects of shame is also unpleasant. To that end, the shame must be overcome.
1. Eliminate feelings of inferiority
2. Doing something earnest
3. Know yourself
4. Accept yourself for what
Terms of success in the association among others influenced by the ability to empathize, to have respect, have a sense of humor, and do not like to look for a scapegoat.
So shame someone is feeling awkward when you're in public, and the cause of the onset of shame itself which are themselves, parents, siblings, other people, and culture. Shame itself has an impact that can not reach the fullness in the association, approaching others too cautious, too self-conscious, and always looking at the negative elements were calculated in him. And as a way to overcome the shame as to eliminate feelings of inferiority, do something seriously, know yourself, and accept ourselves as we are.
